Sex on the Campus

Whitney M.

March 23, 2009 - 6:00 PM

Today, my dad's ex-girlfriend referred to blogging as a form of "Carrie Bradshaw" writing from "Sex and the City." I have often felt much like I was in a scene from the HBO series when I sit down to my computer to type about what is going on in my life.

Sex, of course, is a relevant topic to college students and may be a question that many parents would like to hear about when they peruse the blogs that discuss the life of University of Oregon students.
There are highs and lows in the sex lives of students on campus; however, I suppose highs and lows depend on your perception of good and bad in regard to sex.

My roommate last year is a fantastic girl. She gets straight A's, has a presidential scholarship, lives a substance-free lifestyle, and exercises regularly. However, she had never been on a date. She had never been kissed and never even come close to having sex. She seemed to be content in succeeding academically and seeing her parents on the weekends, but there were times when she talked to me about feeling lonely and disappointed in her lack of romance and, thus, intimacy.

One of my other friends, however, waited until her sophomore year in college to have sex. She has a monogamous relationship in which she is sexually active. She seems to be comfortable and talks to me about the progress she makes in becoming more comfortable with her boyfriend in the sack.

Another of my monogamous friends is, shall we say, more experienced in the bedroom. She seems to be quite comfortable yet respectful of her body and her sexual relationships. Because she is 23, she has had more time to get to know herself and her values when it comes to sexual activity.

Sometimes on campus there are unfortunate events when it comes to sexual relationships. The last experience I want to share with you is that of my friend who recently disclosed to me that she had been date-raped during the winter term. Although this was a traumatic experience for her, she was able to find resources on campus to deal with it. The counseling center has been working with her to help her cope with the event, and she has since joined the club soccer team as well as a sorority.

Of course, the case is never that "everyone is doing it." But according to my experience, many people are. Generally, people are educated about birth control options and take them seriously. I have found that many girls are ready and willing to part with their "Plan-B"s in order to help other college girls stay pregnancy-free.