I Like Friends

Lynae N.

December 27, 2009 - 11:24 PM

I don't see my friends when classes are running full speed ahead. In fact, I hardly have any relationships outside of my program and my amazing Mother has been my closest friend outside of my husband and daughter for over the past year. I've lost touch with the vast majority of my social connections and have put making new friends on hold until I am done with school. Being busy has helped and having a beautiful family has helped, but there are time when I long to have a girl's night out or have other like-minded couples to sit around and shoot the breeze and play games with. I've capitalized on the break from classes to call up some acquaintances I'd like to get to know better to start planting seeds for deeper friendships when I'm done with my Masters in June.

It is so weird to think I've done this, drop friends. But I have. I've sacrificed a lot of connections that have been near and dear to me and I am in such a strange place of dreading the end of school, wanting to pick up and move for more change, and just wanting to dig in and embrace the friends I've neglected for so long. It was so refreshing to start to get to know some good people and not just play friends in passing chats.

And it's ironic in a sense to give up relationships in order to learn about Systems Theory which posits a healthy and well adjusted life does not come from the individual but from relationships and interpersonal interactions. The best therapy is often to know and be known. Friends and family are our best resources and I of all people know this. But knowledge doesn't make relationships easier.They are still a lot of work and they require a lot of time.

So it has been wonderful to be a friend and enjoy friends this break and I eagerly await and dread the time when I can invest myself more into relationships and less into school.